Monday’s Mama is Right on Time.

Remember when I used to post about cool mamas every Monday?

Remember when I used to offer my toddler vegetables and have a generally clean house and have friends and playdates and take Babystar to the park all the time?

Remember when I used to change my clothes at least once a day?

Yeah, me too. If any of this sounds like you, first of all, let’s start a Club. We will never meet because we are all overwhelmed af.

BUT ALSO, you need to check out Bethany’s wisdom over at Mama Finds Her Way. She is finding THE WAY for all of us. Bethany has three kids and still finds time for herself so she’s basically a superhero.

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Bethany has tons of great tips for taking care of your house or your finances or your kids but I love her blog the most because she focuses so many posts on taking care of YOU.

She even has a self-care workbook that you can have for free if you subscribe to her blog. Do it. You will not be disappointed.

Bethany answered some questions for me way back in 2017 and she is not even mad that I’m just now sharing her answers with all of you in March. She gets it. She’s overwhelmed too. But she’s figuring it out for all of us and trying hard to help us all be happy and calm mamas that remember to take care of ourselves. Thank you, Bethany.

1. Your blog is all about helping overwhelmed mamas practice self-care. That is AMAZING! Can you give us mortals an easy tip or two to help live our lives with Calm and Serenity? Or even just Clean Hair and No Yelling?

My best advice is to find some time for you to do something that fills you up. It doesn’t have to be anything productive, either. In fact, on particularly stressful days, during nap time, I will just sit on my couch and stare into space. (I may or may not be eating chocolate during this time). Everyone needs time to breathe. I also strongly encourage all overwhelmed mom’s to start slowly implementing self care. Implement one new habit at a time until it becomes ingrained and then focus on something else. Eventually you will notice that you have more energy and patience. You can actually enjoy your day and your kids more, instead of wishing it were bed time already. 
2. What do YOU do when you get overwhelmed? (Do you ever get overwhelmed?)
I get overwhelmed quite a bit. More often than I would like to admit. It’s something that I am continuing to work on and, although I have come a long way, there is always room for improvement. In fact, I created my blog as a way to help myself process through my own overwhelm and help other moms in the process. For me there are different kinds of overwhelm. Sometimes, I am emotionally overwhelmed and when I feel that way, writing it out is very cathartic for me. When I am overwhelmed by my to do list or the state of my home, I do a complete brain dump of everything I need to do and then I will prioritize that list and start chipping away at the list one task at a time. 

3. What’s the last movie you saw in the theater?

It has been awhile since I have been to the theater. I think the last movie I saw was Captain America: Civil War. 
4. It’s the PTA Bakesale: homemade, store bought, or NOPE?
I intentionally try not to get involved with things like this. I am trying to create more space in my life for the things that fill me up by saying no to things that drain me. And for me, this would be something that is draining.
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Bethany is an inspiration. Everyone should go read her blog and follow her on all of the things: Pinterest, Facebook, and Instagram.
I am now going to practice self-care by making another cup of coffee instead of waking Babystar to take her to a 10am concert. Because fuck Daylight Savings Time. What will YOU do today for yourself?

HOOO Turned Off the Light?

Once upon a time, over Christmas break of 2015, we adopted a super cute Skip Hop owl night light courtesy of the Myrtle Beach grandma. The blue owl sits on my nightstand and glows while Babystar nurses to sleep each night. The very wise owl gently turns itself off after thirty minutes. I love this thing!


One day many months ago, Babystar was playing with the owl an dropped him onto the floor. A piece of plastic broke off of the battery case. We fixed this by covering the bottom tightly with packing tape.

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We use this owl every night. After a few battery changes, the tape method grew less effective and more annoying. If the nightstand was nudged at all, the owl would abruptly flicker off, sometimes causing bedtime distress and NOBODY LIKES BEDTIME DISTRESS.

We replaced the owl in November. ($19.03 via Amazon Prime.) Bedtime improved greatly until a few weeks in to the new owl coming to live with us. Owl #2 broke for real. Even more broker than Owl #1. The battery pack legit broke off and fell inside the owl completely. In fact, we have been using the OG (less) broken owl for months, with our handy tape hack. Fast forward to March and we finally got around to calling Amazon and they replaced it with no issue. Amazon is awesome or maybe we just spend waaaay too much money on Amazon but either way, YAY.

Let’s see how this goes. Take three.

RAISING BABYSTAR: $15,634.23

Back to Cloth.

With few exceptions, Babystar has been in disposable diapers for about a month now. I started when I packed the bag for the Women’s March last month and disposables were so much lighter. I kept her in disposables through a bathroom renovation that took away my access to the diaper sprayer for a week. Then we all got sick and now we are better but yet the disposable diapers remain on the baby.

I’m not gonna lie — I don’t hate them. They are not as cute as the cloth diapers, but they definitely have their benefits.

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But today we are back in cloth. Let’s do this!


We bought eleven packs of diapers during this glorious, lazy month. The Target brand was somehow always on sale for $4.99. Score! So $54.89 for almost a month. Eh. The fancy cloth we use costs $30-35 each. I think you CAN save money using cloth but I definitely did NOT.

(We still have disposables left but we also still use them at night and on Sundays in the church nursery.)

RAISING BABYSTAR: $14,738.38

Ballin’.

Once upon a time my little brother brought a slide into my living room for Babystar. Last month, he added a ball pit. It is her favorite thing ever. She plays in the ball pit every day. Her snowman plays in the ball pit. Her dinosaur plays in the ball pit. Her babies play in the ball pit. Errybody plays in the ball pit.

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It used to belong to her cousin V, and some of the balls were crushed in the past two years. Babystar has upped her stunt game to include diving head first into the ball pit, so we decided to Amazon Prime a few more balls for some extra cushioning. $38.16 for two packs of 250 Fisher Price balls.

Guess who stopped by when there happened to be a giant Amazon box on the front porch? Yes, the awesome uncle who makes ball pits appear in the living room as if by magic brought the box in with him. Of course I had to let him dump all the new balls in the ball pit for Babystar. She stared up at him with so much joy. I think she likes him better than me now. I think she likes him better than PENGUINS now.

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Babystar looks like a little turtle swimming in all those balls with just her head popping up. The new balls were smaller than the original ones, which actually makes for a nice mix. After two days of picking up ballsballsballs and putting them back in the ball pit, I took some out and hid them in a closet downstairs. She didn’t even notice, and now we have backup for when some of these get squished or lost or whatever happens to small plastic balls in this big scary world.

RAISING BABYSTAR: $14,263.39

Star Dresses and String Cheese.

Babystar hates dresses. Last Sunday, she looked SO CUTE for her dedication at church but the behind-the-scenes was hilarious. Luckily we put on the leggings first (it was cold) because once we put this super cute dress on her body she was like WHAT.IS.THIS.CRAP.

(Usually she wears non-fancy clothes and plays in the nursery when she goes to church with her dad while I stay home in bed like a proper heathen tired mama who needs her break.)

So Babystar is all like WHAT is with all of this fabric and WHY is there fluffy stuff on my shoulders and I HATE IT.

But then the Genius Teenager came into Babystar’s bedroom in a dress and pointed out that SHE was wearing a dress and MAMA was wearing a dress and BABYSTAR was wearing a dress. Then she scooped that baby up and dragged us both to her full length mirror to show us that BABYSTAR had stars on her dress and it was SO PRETTY and Mama had stars on her dress and we were all SO PRETTY. Babystar got on board after that. The Teenager is a rock star.

And all morning the tiny one pointed at her silver stars saying ‘tar? ‘tar? ‘tar? I guess she didn’t notice the giant stars on her knees.

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The leggings and dress were from Gymboree (40% off but that store is forever having a sale) for $37.46. And the leggings are really just thick knitted pants so I suspect we will wear them all winter. And look, now I already bought her Christmas dress. (If it still fits.)

Plus some boring stuff: diapers and wipes and October’s baby food. (This is food that I buy especially for her. I share some of it, like mostly the eggs but other stuff too and she shares my food but mostly spoonfuls of veggies or a few bites of fish or things that I would have bought and eaten anyway, if she didn’t. I think it works out, for now.)

  • Whole Foods brand disposable diapers $11.99
  • Costco wipes $19.99
  • Sbarro slice of pepperoni pizza $2.49
  • 4 zucchini $2.87
  • 2 cans diced tomatoes $1.68
  • pre-cut pears in juice $1.99
  • pack of six pears $2.99
  • peaches in jar $2.69
  • peaches au natural $1.42
  • chia seed waffles x2 $7.98
  • eggs x2 $8.98
  • Gerber veggie melts x2 $5.98
  • bananas x20$3.80
  • Trader Joe’s crispy peas $5.48
  • graham crackers $2.49
  • smoked turkey $5.23
  • cheese sticks $5.99
  • animal crackers from Target $1.08
  • party food for MOMS Halloween potluck $32.97

 

RAISING BABYSTAR: $13,140.35